One day your child makes a mess in the living room. Another day they hit their sibling. Then, they have a meltdown in the checkout line. These behaviors are always frustrating! Yet they keep doing it.
Every day comes with its own challenges. But as a parent, the biggest reason we get frustrated with our young children is the assumption that they already know what your expectations are. It’s crucial to know how to set standards for your child’s behavior.
Here’s how to teach grace and courtesy.
Walking at Home or In the Classroom
Age: 2 and above
Make a list of behaviors that you hope to curtail and side-by-side a list of expectations that you want from your child. Have a goal in mind. Be specific. You are not giving a 30 minute lecture. Be realistic.
- Invite the child.
- Sit at child’s level.
- Use proper language. Never give a choice, like saying “can I show you?” or ”is it okay?” because that is asking for permission and not giving direction.
- SAY: “Today, I want to show you how to walk around the house and pick up your stuff”
- DO: Walk around the house with your head straight and walk without saying anything. If your goal is for your child to pick up his stuff along the way, stop and say, “Oops, I left my shoe. Let me pick it up and put it away.” Walk back and put it at its proper place” Set the example.
- SAY: “Now it’s your turn.”
- Watch and observe.
Tip for presentation
It is not necessary to praise your child after he follows your lead. It is for the best to make him aware that he is doing what is expected of him as a member of the household.